To really answer this question I have to get a little theological and use some terms you might not be used to hearing every day. But hang in there. It will be worth the effort to understand.
There is a fundamental difference between God and us. The Bible tells us, He is holy (Isa. 65:5); we are not (Romans 3:23). That creates enormous psychological distance. We are okay as long as God is viewed as impersonal or if He is all loving and approves of all we do. But as soon as we become aware that He requires that we be as perfect as He is, we feel uncomfortable, even fearful or angry at Him. When others require us to be something we are incapable of being, we seek to avoid them and escape from their judging gaze.
We have cause to be uncomfortable because those who are not as perfect as God (and that includes all of us) cannot qualify to live with Him forever. We would ruin heaven for Him. I explained to one person this last weekend that the question is not, “How can a loving God send anyone to hell? The real question is, “How can a holy God allow anyone into His perfect heaven?”
The important thing to note is that the perfection God demanded, He provided. We had minus righteous. Have you ever lied? Have you ever stolen anything? You get the picture. God, however, provided plus righteousness. In fact, it was more than what we needed to qualify for heaven.
Here’s how. When Jesus as a sinless substitute died on the cross He paid sin’s penalty which was death. He made it possible to transfer His perfect righteousness to us in exchange for our sin. He died in our place (Matthew 20:28). He suffered what we justly deserved, thus releasing us. When we trust Jesus as the payment for our sin debt, He becomes our Savior, giving us the free gift of eternal life (Romans 6:23). Romans 4:5 says, “But to him who does not work but believes on Him who justifies the ungodly, his faith is accounted for righteousness.”
If you receive God’s free gift of righteousness by receiving Christ, you have all the righteousness you need to enter heaven. The gift is given freely so that you might respond with heartfelt thanksgiving in grateful service to Him (Ephesians 2:10).
If this makes sense, why don’t you, the best you know how, receive that gift for your own? “Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and you will be saved (Acts 16:31).” And then you should feel relaxed, comfortable, and at ease with God because you would truly be His child and accepted by Him into His forever family (John 1:12-13).
If you have received this gift and are God’s, what are you doing with it to make your life count for Him?
[Verse references not quoted may be looked up in your Bible for verification]